Stop Leading on Empty: The 4 Rhythms That Sustain Great Leaders
Note: I originally published this post back in August 2025. Since then, I have published Leadership from Within (which, by the way, is available at a discounted price for the Kindle edition), along with several blog posts offering short reflections on topics I cover in more depth in the book. My last post covering topics directly from the book appeared back in November, and last week, I wrote about imposter syndrome.
I thought it might be helpful to repost this older post and offer you a hyperlinked list of the book-related posts. They are listed below in order:
The USS Oak Hill Leadership Secret: What Caring for 800 Souls Taught Me About Thriving Under Pressure. I reflect on how serving as a chaplain on board a U.S. Navy ship served as the genesis of my book.
The Porcupine Paradox | Why Great Leaders Need Each Other (Even When It Hurts). I write about how porcupines (and leaders) need each other, and sometimes hurt each other in a seemingly never-ending cycle.
Is Your Childhood Still Running Your Leadership?. This post is on attachment theory and how important our childhood attachment to our primary caregiver is to being a secure-base leader.
Why Your Personality Is Your Greatest Leadership Asset (Not Your Biggest Weakness). I write about the introversion and quiet conviction of Gandhi and the extroversion and dynamic inspiration of King, both of whom moved nations. Authentic leadership doesn’t come from a single model; it comes from embracing your natural strengths.
Your 3-Stage Purpose Discovery Process for Leadership Calling (No Mountaintop Moment Required). Your leadership purpose isn’t found on a mountaintop. Instead, it is found through ordinary faithfulness and crucible seasons.
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I am here to support you in your journey toward flourishing leadership.
If your growth area is your Christian spirituality, take a look at my Spiritual Direction offering (no charge for this service).
If you are focusing on other areas, my current coaching calendar is full.
I'll reopen my Leadership from Within coaching in April. Let’s talk and see if we discern a mutual fit. Schedule a consultation now.
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The Hidden Crisis Destroying Leaders
You wake up exhausted. Again. The same knot in your stomach greets you before your feet hit the floor. Another day of back-to-back meetings, putting out fires, and making decisions that affect dozens—maybe hundreds—of lives. You're successful by every external measure but running on empty inside.
If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. The statistics are staggering: nearly 70% of HR leaders report an increase in burnout at their organizations over the past year, 56% of leaders experienced burnout in 2024, and 70% of C-suite executives are considering quitting their jobs to protect their well-being. This isn't just affecting a few overwhelmed managers—it's a full-scale leadership crisis.
The Burnout Epidemic Is Getting Worse
The pandemic didn't create leadership burnout—it exposed what was already there. We discovered that many of our "successful" leaders were already operating from a place of depletion rather than abundance. Like the proverbial frog in slowly heating water, they'd gradually accepted exhaustion, relationship strain, and spiritual emptiness as normal costs of leadership.
Seventy percent of leaders felt burnout hindered their decision-making capabilities, while 72% reported increased physical and mental health problems. Burnout's impact cascades throughout organizations—43% of companies lost half their leadership teams in 2024 alone.
Here's what makes this crisis particularly insidious: We're not just losing leaders—we're losing the wrong kind of leaders. The ones who burn out often have the most profound sense of calling, the strongest work ethic, and the greatest concern for others. Meanwhile, those who prioritize self-preservation over service continue climbing organizational ladders.
The Four-Rhythm Solution
What if the answer isn't working less, but working from wholeness? What if sustainable leadership isn't about better time management, but better soul management?
During my deployment aboard the USS Oak Hill with 800 Navy and Marine Corps personnel, I discovered something remarkable: leaders who thrived didn't have easier circumstances—they had better rhythms. Four specific rhythms, actually:
Relational Rhythms: These leaders maintained authentic connections both professionally and personally. They understood that leadership is fundamentally about relationships, not just results. They had people who knew them beyond their title and performance.
Spiritual Rhythms: They stayed connected to purpose through consistent spiritual practices. These were not necessarily lengthy religious observances, but regular moments of silence, reflection, and alignment with something greater than quarterly targets.
Emotional Rhythms: Instead of suppressing emotions or letting them control them, these leaders developed emotional intelligence. They could acknowledge feelings without being overwhelmed, process difficulty without becoming bitter, and maintain stability without becoming mechanical.
Physical Rhythms: They treated their bodies not as vehicles to abuse in service of their calling, but as temples to steward. Regular movement, adequate sleep, and proper nutrition weren't luxuries but leadership infrastructure.
The Transformation: From Depletion to Abundance
When leaders integrate these four rhythms, something remarkable happens. They stop leading from scarcity and start leading from abundance. They make better decisions because they're not operating from exhaustion. They build stronger teams because they understand human connection. They navigate crises with wisdom because they've developed inner resilience.
Consider the leader I know whose child had severe health issues. The health issues were pushing his family to the breaking point. Instead of hiding his struggle behind a stoic facade, he approached her commanding officer with vulnerability: "I think my career is over. My family is barely surviving, and I can't keep up." Rather than ending his career, this authentic leadership led to flexible scheduling that saved his family and propelled him to serve for 14 more years.
This is what leading from wholeness looks like—making major life transitions with wisdom rather than desperation, with consideration for others rather than purely personal survival.
Your 90-Day Transformation Pathway
The good news? You don't need a complete life overhaul to begin experiencing these benefits. I’ve created a free, fillable PDF titled Leading Without Burning Out. I guide you in assessing and reflecting on four important life rhythms.
After completing the guide, you will have a good sense of where you are with rhythms essential for life flourishing, and then you can start with what I call the "keystone practice" approach:
Phase One (Days 1-30): Choose your lowest-scoring rhythm and implement one small daily practice. If relationships are suffering, commit to one meaningful conversation per week. If spiritual dryness plagues you, begin with five minutes of morning silence.
Phase Two (Days 31-60): Integrate rhythms into daily flow. Start with morning silence followed by emotional check-ins. Then, have walking meetings that combine physical movement with relational connection. Finally, take time in the evening for reflections that integrate all four dimensions.
Phase Three (Days 61-90): Lead others toward soul-driven practices. Model appropriate vulnerability, create psychologically safe environments, and demonstrate that wellness isn't selfish—it's strategic.
Start Your Transformation Today
The architecture of sustainable leadership is available to you right now. The question isn't whether you'll face leadership challenges—it's whether you'll face them from depletion or abundance.
Consider these statistics
In 2023, Gallup reported that actively disengaged employees result in a staggering $8.8 trillion loss in global productivity. A burned-out team is an unproductive team.
Your Turn
Take action this week: Schedule 20 minutes for silence and reflection tomorrow morning. During this time, assess which of the four rhythms needs the most attention. Then commit to one small daily practice in that area for 30 days.
Your future self, your team, and everyone whose life you touch will thank you for choosing wholeness over heroics, rhythms over rushing, and presence over productivity.
I am here to support you in your journey toward flourishing leadership.
If your current growth area is your Christian spirituality, take a look at my Spiritual Direction offering (no charge for this service).
If you are focusing on other areas, my current coaching calendar is full.
I'll reopen my Leadership from Within coaching in April. Let’s talk and see if we discern a mutual fit. Schedule a consultation now.
